Insights from the Work

Observations, reflections, and practical guidance on leadership, organizational effectiveness, and the human experience of work.

Leadership is human work.

How we lead is shaped by how we relate to being human.

At StartHuman, we believe leadership effectiveness requires developing more conscious relationships with three fundamental aspects of the human experience: power, fear, and vulnerability.

We call this The StartHuman Way™.

Three invitations to lead with greater awareness, compassion, and choice:

Stand in Service™: Choose commitment over compliance.
Befriend Fear™: Choose presence over protection.
Sit in the Fire™: Choose integrity over relief.

Here, we explore the human side of leadership effectiveness—the patterns, choices, and everyday behaviors that shape our relationships, our impact, and the cultures we create.

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Befriending Fear at Work (P3)

Fear doesn’t disappear in leadership moments—it shows up. Emotionally intelligent leaders learn how to stay with it. This article explores breath, the 4As, and self-compassion as practical ways to be with fear in real time.

Amber Barnes 3/27/26 Amber Barnes 3/27/26

Befriending Fear at Work (P2)

Fear doesn’t start in our thoughts—it begins in the body. Emotionally intelligent leaders learn to recognize fear through sensation, behavior, and reflection, expanding their awareness and increasing their ability to choose how they respond

Amber Barnes 3/13/26 Amber Barnes 3/13/26

Befriending Fear at Work (P1)

Fear has a strange reputation in our culture. We’re told strong leaders are fearless, but fear is not a flaw in the human system—it’s a survival response built into the brain. Emotionally intelligent leaders don’t eliminate fear. They change their relationship with it.

Amber Barnes 5/30/25 Amber Barnes 5/30/25

What If We Stopped Taking Things So Personally?

When leaders take things personally, it often signals a protective response rather than a present one. What becomes possible when we meet feedback, tension, and disagreement with curiosity instead?

Amber Barnes 5/23/25 Amber Barnes 5/23/25

“I’m Triggered”: A Call to Radical Responsibility

“I’m triggered” is often used to explain strong emotional reactions at work. But leadership requires more than naming the reaction—it requires taking responsibility for how we respond.